How to Approach Women

Knowing how to approach women is a vital skill every man needs to know, because approaching women is the first step in creating a relationship with the girl of your dreams...

It's important that you know how to approach a girl the right way. Let's go over some tactics that will help you to be more successful than the average guy.

Have you ever approached a girl with what you thought was the best pickup line ever, but she freaked out when you tapped her on the shoulder?

Know this - getting shot down has little to do with what you were going to say or what your intentions were. It's all about how you go about actually approaching your target. It's important to do this right the first time, because it's hard to recover when you make a mistake right off the bat.

The key to approaching women is to approach them in a NON-THREATENING manner that does not telegraph your interest.

This is all about coming in "under the radar."

It's the woman's reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her.

Most men don't realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don't want to deal with yet "another pick-up attempt."

Approaching women can be both easy AND fun when you know how to do it RIGHT.

So what's the right way to approach a woman?

First - YOU MUST ACT FAST.

If you hesitate and let the opportunity pass you by, you're never going to experience success. Giving yourself time to talk yourself out of approaching a girl will never get you anywhere, so it's important you act quickly and JUST DO IT.

Next, know before-hand what you're going to say. This makes the act of approaching women so much easier, because you don't have to waste time thinking of something to talk about before you approach.

Having a good "pick up line" memorized for situations like these is always a good idea.

Now, when I use the term "pick up line," I don't mean the "Nice shirt, want to have sex?" type of line that'll get you slapped in the face. Remember, you need to be NON-THREATENING!

The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions.

When approaching a woman, it's important that you approach her from an ANGLE. Most guys charge towards the girl they want to meet like they're marching to war! Coming in at an angle is much less confrontational and will put the girl at ease on a subconscious level.

The simple fact is - great pick-ups can only occur when the girl you are talking to feels comfortable with you! That's why you need to feel comfortable talking to the girl.

It's natural to feel uncomfortable meeting attractive women, but remember - practice makes perfect! If you take the time to go out and practice meeting women, over time it will become easier and you'll be more comfortable with doing it.

Simply reading about meeting women or studying techniques is not going to help you get good at approaching women. If you want real success, you actually have to go out in the real world and meet lots of women so you can build your experience level. And the cool thing is - the more you do it, the easier it gets!

If you're afraid of rejection, adjust your goals so that it's hard to get rejected. Too many guys try and get the phone number, the date, or the quick romp in the sack. Instead, take baby steps and set your goal as just talking to the girl and carrying on a conversation. Use that as your measure of success. Remember, you're just learning the right way of doing things.

That's it!

See how many girls you can talk to in one night, and keep trying to beat your score.

Finally, use a "time constraint" when approaching women. This is as simple as telling her you've only got a minute to talk to her because you've got to get back to your friends or whatever you're doing.

Time constraints let the girl you're talking to know that you're not trying to monopolize her time, and that this will be a quick conversation. Because of this, she'll be more willing to engage in your talk.

The beauty of this is that if the conversation picks up and is going well, she'll forget that you used a time constraint, and you can actually talk to her as long as you want. Using a good time constraint is just a way to make the approach easier in the beginning.

The dating game is a numbers game. The more women you're able to meet, the greater your chances at finding a great girlfriend, and possibly even a future wife.

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